Life Begins at 40

For as long as I can remember I honestly thought life was going to be a breeze. Two simple rites of passage: Marriage and kids.

Boy was I wrong!

Growing up my parents unfortunately split and divorced. They were amicable so I never lived in a volatile environment. Eventually they both met the loves of their life and remarried. To say all of this didn’t affect me is an understatement. I began to rebel and believed the only way I could truly find happiness was to meet a man.

Husband no. 1

We had a great relationship at the beginning (don’t we all) - but the marriage collapsed leaving me looking after my 2 year old son on my own. Life was tough. No money, no job and nowhere to live. This was now the perfect reason to get my shit together and grow up. I found a job, a house and managed to bring my son up on my own, consciously aware I’d have to play the part as mum and dad. He was an exceptionally happy, polite, and caring little boy. My job was done so I thought!

Husband no. 2

We met a couple of years after I split from my first husband. This guy was incredible! Surely, I was dreaming?! Career driven, kind, caring and yay…he adored my son! Life was perfect, so I thought. Four years later I gave birth to another beautiful boy. Unfortunately, cracks started to show and after a couple of years of sheer mental hell I plucked up the courage and left my marriage.

The Boys

My sons are my complete and utter world. With all the changes they’ve had to cope with during their young lives, I can safely say with my hand on heart they have never felt any effects of my life changing decisions. We’re a team. Don’t get me wrong we fight and argue but most importantly we laugh. I insist we eat dinner together every night (funnily enough we hardly ever did when I was married), which has played such an important part in achieving a happy, loving relationship between the 3 of us. They know I will ALWAYS be there and slowly I’m starting to reap the rewards and appreciation from them.

Life Coaching

I would say I’ve lived a very fruitful life, probably a little too fruitful but this has made me the person I am today, and I wouldn’t change a thing. Due to all my experiences from reaching the ultimate high to hitting rock bottom, I’ve developed my own coping strategies which is why I became an accredited Life Coach. I believe a profession which involves helping others should come from the heart and not through a textbook. Confidence is a mindset and with the correct guidance anyone can achieve this powerful feeling.

Now the exciting part…

Dating in your 40’s

WOW WOW WOW!! It’s empowering, exciting and you can be in control! What’s more appealing for a man to date a mature, sexy woman? Surely, as we’ve now established who we are and what we want, dating can be so much more enjoyable than when we were younger. Well, it certainly is for me!

Every week I will give you hints and tips on how to bag that special person. My first rule of dating is to have fun, no matter which age you are. I can even promise you a few butterflies before that first date. Life is exciting if you’re prepared to put in the work and fight for everything you want and deserve!!